Daddy-shaming is a thing and this is who does it the most

Daddy-shaming is a thing and this is who does it the mostDaddy-shaming is a thing and this is who does it the mostMothers have long borne the brunt of criticism and unsolicited commentary from just about everybody in the world about how they raise their children, whether its whether or not to breastfeed, whether to keep working or stay at home, what they feed their kids, how much screen time they allow their toddlers, whether they let their child run around a restaurant while they try to eat, and of course, why they let them eat so much sugar.A new national poll of 713 fathers from the C.S. Mott Childrens Hospital at the University of Michigan, however, says about half of fathers face a similar conundrum, called Daddy-shaming.Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moreThe hot-button issues where dads are criticized the most67% how they discipline their child43% what they fed their kids32% not paying enough attention32% playing too rough with the kids24% dealing with sleepNearly half (49%) fathers say that they use this criticism as a learning experience and make a change in how theyre parenting, and 40% do research on what theyve been critiqued on.Over a quarter of fathers, however, said that the unasked-for appraisals of their parenting made them feel less confident as a parent, and one in five said it even made them feel deterred from getting more involved in parenting.And 43% of dads felt that the daddy-shaming was simply unfair.While some fathers say criticism prompts them to seek more information about good parenting practices, too much disparagement may cause dads to feel demoralized about their parental role, said poll co-director Sarah Clark, M.P.H., in a release.Family styleWith mommy-shaming, the source of criticism often comes from strangers, friends, other moms, and their own family members. With dads, the criticism comes most often from within the family the most often being the other parent (44%). It looks like the moms, victims of mommy-shaming, are doing a solid amount of daddy-shaming perhaps out of a protective instinct towards their little ones, suggested Clark.Family members especially the other parent should be willing to acknowledge that different parenting styles are not necessarily incorrect or harmful, said Clark.Dads often get left out of the loop when it comes to things moms or professionals usually handle, as well. Sometimes, they feel like theyre not even in the room 11% of fathers have felt that a teacher assumed they didnt know anything about their childs needs, and 12% felt that a medical professional assumed they didnt know anything about their childs health. And a quarter felt out of the loop about their kids activities.Even subtle forms of disparagement can undercut fathers confidence or send the message that they are less important to their childs well-being, said Clark, adding that family members should be careful not to make comments or critiques that may make dads feel like they dont know how to parent the right way.So this Fathers Day, remember that Dads arent just big goofballs. Theyre an equal parent, just trying to do their best.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people